If you’d ask a woman what one of the worst things is that happens in a club, she’ll definitely bring up how annoying it is to see an endless line of men who stare at her non-stop without talking to her. The negative effect of staring at a woman for too long is so strong, even a woman who’s initially attracted to you would get turned off quickly if you just keep looking at her without talking to her.
Make it a habit to decisively and quickly talk to a woman if she notices you in a social setting. Walk over and simply say Hi. I know you’re not sure what to say but being afraid of what to say is not a death sentence. However, just idly standing by to figure out what to say is going to be an attraction killer. There are two reasons why you shouldn’t waste time just standing around.
For one, it does not signify confidence to a woman. I’m sure this one is obvious to you but there’s another reason. It also signals to women that you’re desperately looking for approval. Men who don’t need approval with an abundance mindset will be too busy having fun, talking to friends or strangers. Not to hook up, but simply to enjoy the great time and company.
So here’s a little hack for you if you don’t feel confident — which is normal: Stop staring. Instead, have fun with friends. This may open up doors for a conversation with her later on because you didn’t turn her off too much. So never stare.
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