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In today’s video we’re going to talk about positive affirmations. About positivity when you’re dating, it’s all about staying positive and telling yourself that you’re a catch, that you’re awesome, always being in a good mood, because that’s what women want. Because if you’re not in a positive mood, you’re always going to find reasons why something is not going to work out with a woman. You’re not going to approach her, you’re not going to have the confidence to talk to her. And so that’s why affirmations can be really powerful. And I said to myself that this video is really great for me to make today because I am really negative right now. Because I’m about to move to Bali very soon in two weeks from now, and so much uncertainty. And that’s really what dating is. When you’re trying to date a really attractive woman, there’s a lot of uncertainty. You don’t know what’s going on.
So, I am right now super uncertain about moving to Bali, visa, and how do I stay there long term? What house to get there? You know, how can I open a bank account? All of this stuff, lots of uncertainty. And this kind of uncertainty always paralyzes us. And so, for example, when you’re seeing a woman across the street or in a bar or wherever, and you want to talk to her, there’s uncertainty. And as soon as there’s uncertainty within you, you are basically hesitant to take action, and you feel very paralyzed. That’s how I feel right now. And so, I have a message from a guy who read my book, actually. And he’s been the kind of guy who’s been really shy in the past. And he did positive affirmations. He tried to embrace more positivity in his life. And because of that, he’s now having success in life. So his message is a great reminder for me to have some positive affirmations and tell myself, ‘Look, it’s going to be fine, and Bali is going to be great. And whatever problems I’ll have there, I’ll overcome them.’
That’s the same thing that you have to tell yourself when you’re trying to talk to a really beautiful woman. And maybe you’re already talking to her, and you’re thinking, “Maybe is she going to like me, or is she going to be turned off, or am I going to say something wrong?” You got to tell yourself, “No, there’s no way that she’s going to turn me down. We’re going to have a lot of fun. She’s going to like being around me. She’s going to laugh. I will make her love, and eventually, I’m going to bring her to the bedroom, and her entire body is going to scream that she wants me.” So, a positive state of mind matters. Now let’s get into the message of the guy who read my book and who is having success, and he’s reminding me to stay positive.
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Hi coach, hopefully you share my story on your channel and give me advice because it’s a little bit related to an idea in your book. I bought your book a few months ago because I was such a shy guy. I’m 23 and never had a girlfriend before, reading your book, or rather, never had anything serious. So, I really don’t know how to talk to girls, and I’m also a little bit nerdy and not an athletic type of person. Lately, I started picking up calisthenics and I’m starting to look a little bit more defined. I’m actually really proud of my growth in the last months. Unleash the king within!
So he’s a good example of a person who has no frame of reference. He is relatively shy, 23 years old, never had a girlfriend. So if you never had a girlfriend, then you don’t know that there’s a lot of great stuff out there waiting for you. So for example, what I just mentioned about my Bali trip. There are so many uncertainties, and I don’t know all the good stuff that’s waiting for me in Bali because I never lived in Bali for long term. If you never had a girlfriend, for example, if you never had sex, if you never seduced a woman, if you never approached a woman and she didn’t reject you or maybe you’ve never approached a woman in the first place, then you don’t know how amazing that is. But as soon as, for example, you had a girlfriend or as soon as you had a woman who just went crazy for you and essentially wanted her to be by you like crazy and she just can’t wait for it, it’s a good feeling.
And once you have that good feeling, once you have a frame of reference for knowing, look, dating women can actually be really fun, look, approaching women can be really fun, going to a bar and talking to women can be really fun, going home with a woman and having sex can be really fun. This is about teaching your brain that there’s a lot of good stuff waiting out there for you. And so sometimes we have to trick our brains to tell it, look, everything is going to be fine and life is awesome, and sometimes we have to take action even if we don’t feel good. So for example, this guy, he was very shy and a bit of a nerdy type, but then he started picking up calisthenics, so because of that, he’s now embracing that positivity. People who work out are typically very positive people, and a lot of people always think, “I’m not athletic or I can’t work out or I can’t go for a marathon run, I can’t do this and this and this and that,” but then when you pick up something new and you basically talk yourself into doing something that you thought you’re not capable of, you feel better about yourself.
And even if your body hasn’t really adapted to it yet, you’re slowly training your body that it’s capable of more of something that it hasn’t known before. This concept is actually called neuroplasticity. So for example, if you think you’re not good at going to a gym or not lifting weights, then you can train your brain that you can actually do this. You can actually cheat it. You can tell yourself, “No, I got this. I can go to the gym and I can be really good at working out,” and over time, your brain is going to believe you. Same way, you could talk to women or rather, you could tell yourself, “I am good at talking to women. I am a catch. I’m a king. I’m amazing,” and over time, your brain is actually going to trust you that yes, I am actually an amazing king and women love me, and then it’s actually going to be easier for you to talk to women. Changing your frame of reference is super important in dating. It’s about telling yourself that you are amazing, that you are a king, and once your brain starts believing that, that’s when you’re going to get results. So let’s see what he says and where his results are coming in.
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Anyway, the reason why I’m writing is that I recently met a really nice girl, and in fact, I actually met more girls in the last few months and super unexpectedly had sex for the first time a few months ago.
Nice! So basically, you got laid for the first time because you’re changing yourself, because you’re working on yourself, because you’re trying to become more positive, become more outgoing, or rather, chase something that’s important to you. So, the calisthenics, for example, this is something that you’ve probably never done in your life because you said that you’re very nerdy, but now you’re starting to embrace a can-do attitude, and because of that, you got laid, actually.
So that’s amazing, dude. So I guess congrats and welcome to the club. I hope that continues for you. And let’s see what he says next. So you can see positivity really has a lot of impact on your life. Now he’s getting laid for the first time, so that’s pretty dope, dude!
I never expected this girl to be so into me, but when she started texting, she really was very direct and tried to turn me on, which was kind of out of nowhere. I think it’s related to my workout and just generally trying to find myself and focusing more on my passions and purpose.
Yup, now, I mentioned this in my book. You gotta focus on your passions and your purpose, and you’re probably applying this what you read in my book, and that’s what she can feel.
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I was very surprised when she invited me to her place, and it was basically her who seduced me, not the other way around. That was really amazing, and ever since then, I’m really excited to date. Anyway, lol, sorry I got off track, but yeah, I can’t complain about my winning streak in the last few months. So anyway, I’m not emailing you because of this girl. She’s kind of a bit too crazy for me and really has a very eccentric personality, but the sex was unforgetable.
Yeah, I bet it was. And what you just told me, that this woman basically was pretty easy or it was easy to seduce her, or whether she seduced you, most likely was because she felt that you’re really strong, that you’re really grounded, that you were focused on yourself. You said it yourself, you’ve been focusing on your passions, on your purpose, so that tells me that most likely you were not focused on women so much because you said that you used to be very shy in the past, which probably tells me that you’ve been too much focused on women and trying to get their approval. Because when you’re really shy and you’re not getting laid, essentially you’re not getting sex, you’re not getting any women you want. It so much, so you’re trying to figure out what can I do to actually get this, and when you’re doing that, when you’re thinking from that frame of reference, you’re essentially telling yourself, “I am not desirable. What do I have to do to get a woman to have sex with me?“
But then, when you change your perspective and focus on yourself, and it’s not so much about getting that woman anymore, it’s more about just having fun and being happy in your own skin. All of a sudden, the women will take notice, and then they will want to have sex with you simply because they can tell that you’re happy and you’re not one of those guys who’s trying to please women. For example, you’re just trying to please yourself. You’re trying to find your way in life, and that is sexy because all of a sudden you’re no longer living your life for another woman, you’re living it for yourself.
If you take it back to positive affirmations, for example, he has been doing calisthenics, right? So, he has been trying to get better at something, basically, a workout, right? He’s trying to get better at the control of his body. So now, you’re really focused on pleasing yourself. You’re really into calisthenics, basically, right? So, you’re really figuring out how am I going to become better with my body control, right? Calisthenics is all about control of yourself. There are a lot of sports like yoga, for example, as well, which is a lot about yourself. It’s just becoming a master of your own body. And when you’re doing something like that, like calisthenics or yoga, you really focus more on your own body and your own happiness. And that then signals to other women that, “Look, he’s not showing up for me, he’s showing up for himself.“
And because of that, then women will want to seduce you. Maybe that woman that you dated or that girl that you dated or hooked up with, whatever it was, maybe she was a bit easy as well, and you never know. But ultimately she could tell that you are a king. She could tell that you’re confident in your own skin, that you love what you’re doing, and that’s why she basically wanted to have sex. So, it’s a good case study so far of what he just said earlier in the mantra of my book, “Unleash the King Within.” Unleash the King Within, focus on yourself, and then the women will follow.!
The reason why I’m messaging is that I think that one idea in your book about needing an anchor of a positive experience with a woman really helped me to put me into a more positive state of mind.
That’s right, so I don’t think I mentioned this earlier, but this is actually called an anchor. In neurolinguistic programming, we call this an anchor. An anchor is basically something that you associate with something. So if you, for example, had sex for the first time with a woman and this sex was just mind-blowing, then you should always remind yourself of this mind-blowing sex. And then, for example, if you’re going to approach another woman in public or at a bar, you’re about to do that. You’re going to remind yourself of that moment when you had this incredible, mind-blowing sex. And then you’re going to be really positive, and you’re going to be like, “Okay, I want this sex again. This felt really good.” You’re going to feel good about yourself. And then you’re going to walk over to this woman, and you’re going to be like, “Okay, I’m going to put on my game face. I’m going to be charming, I’m going to talk to her, have some fun, and then later on we’re going to go home and I’m going to go wild like a king, like a lion.” And you know, so that’s what an anchor is.
And so anchors and positive affirmations are really helpful because they lift up your spirit. And then because you feel more positive, you’re more willing to take action. And you’re taking action that actually feels good. And like you can see, he’s having some good results with his positivity and with his anchor, because now he got laid, and now he basically wants to keep getting laid, right?
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And ever since I had sex with that girl, I also practice positive affirmations to myself every morning in front of the mirror. I know this sounds silly, but it has helped me a lot.
No, I don’t think that is silly at all. So I don’t mention positive affirmations in my book. I might think that I should probably add this at some point in my book. But if you don’t know what is the positive affirmation, for example, one positive affirmation could be, “I am financially stable. I am an outstanding cryptocurrency trader, and I’m really good at what I do.“
So if I tell myself this every single day, I am going to trust myself more. I trust myself more as a crypto trader. So now when I used to crypto trade two, three, four years ago, I was very insecure about this because I would always question my decisions. Like, “Do I make a trade now? Do I buy crypto right now? Maybe it’s going to crash 50% in the next two hours, so maybe I shouldn’t buy right now.” It’s all about not trusting yourself. So that’s what positive affirmations are for. You basically identify the thing that you know is your biggest doubt, and then you reverse that doubt. So for example, if you are afraid of talking to beautiful women, or if you think you can’t get a girlfriend, well then your positive information could be, for example, “I’m a king, I’m amazing, I’m attractive, I’m smart, I’m funny, and women love to talk to me.” And you’re going to then repeat this to yourself every single day in front of the mirror. And if you’ve never done this, it seems incredibly silly. I know, I used to think that this kind of stuff is ridiculous. I used to think that all this personal growth stuff is stupid, and what’s his name, Tony Robbins? I thought that Tony Robbins is full of it, for example.
And now, I really think this stuff works. And I know that it works because of concepts such as neuro-linguistic programming and neuroplasticity. We can change our brains and how our brains actually function just with the power of our thoughts. That’s why positive affirmations work so well, and it’s not silly. So if you’re doing positive affirmations every single day for yourself, whatever your positive affirmations are, that’s awesome, dude! Actually, it takes courage to do that. Not everybody is willing to do that – to actually stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself something that you probably don’t believe yet. It’s not easy. It’s really not easy. So I think that’s awesome that you’ve been doing that to lift your spirit up. So, good job! Right after I’m gonna shoot this video, I’m gonna go in front of my mirror and I’m gonna do some positive affirmations for myself, for my new life in Bali, because I need it. So thank you for reminding me about this.
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So this is where I am at right now. I met this really great girl a few weeks ago when I went out with some friends. I actually didn’t get to talk that much with her, but we really got along well that night. And somehow, she got my IG profile and added me. So she was really into you, basically. So here’s where I need your advice. I guess you could say that she is more like a normal type of girl. I mean in her behavior, not her looks. She’s really beautiful. I mean more that she’s not like this crazy girl that I dated. So I don’t really know what I should do now because I don’t want to screw this up. I really want to date her more because she’s got class, is smart, very positive, and ambitious. So, you could say that all those positive affirmations really helped me to meet better women. Now I just need to make sure I don’t make any mistake. What would you suggest I do now? I don’t think she is going to just invite me to her place like the last girl, so I need a battle plan. Thank you very much. Stay kings, brothers!
I love your positivity, and I think that’s actually also the answer to your question. What should you do? You should do the same thing that you’ve been doing with the other girl. Now, it sounds to me that this girl that you’re dating now, or that, well, you’re not dating, right? You met her at a bar or whatever, and then she added you on IG. But the bottom line is you really like her, right? I have a feeling that you think this woman is much more classy than the other woman. So, the other one was relatively easy to get, so maybe you actually didn’t put her on a pedestal. This one, now, it seems to me that you’re kind of a little bit putting here on a pedestal. You said that well, the positive affirmations helped you to meet better women basically, so she is one of them now.
What you have to do is you have to stay in that positive frame of mind and not tell yourself, “she’s out of my league.” She basically added you on IG because she wanted to talk to you. So, whatever happened that night, even though you didn’t talk that much, you got along well and she clearly liked you, and somehow she must have found out who you are, right? So, common friends or something like that at that party, so she’s really into you. Essentially, like you said, you don’t have to make another mistake.
So, if we look at your last situation with the first time that you got laid, what happened? Well, she made it easy for you, of course. She invited you to her place, and then you had sex, right? So, that’s ultimately what you have to get to. Now, she’s not gonna invite you to her place like you just said. It’s not gonna happen. All you have to do is essentially set up another date. So, most likely, you have to warm her up. You’re gonna have to have a normal date, so invite her out on a date. You’re probably gonna wait for her to message you after something like an IG story, and then eventually, you’re gonna invite her out on a date and eventually bring her to your place. And then again, you have to seduce her. So, this time, you’re gonna have to make a move. You can’t just hope that this is gonna happen again. You have to take some action. Stay positive. You just really have to repeat what you did with this other girl but essentially be a little bit more proactive.
So, just keep up your positive affirmations, and eventually, you’re going to seduce her. I think the key is really just to keep up what you’ve been doing. Focus on yourself, on your purpose, your passions. Then whenever she reaches out to you, you invite her out on dates, you have some fun, and then eventually, you seduce her. And then you just repeat that process until the time that she actually wants to be your girlfriend, and that is how you essentially manifest a girlfriend. And I think you’re almost there already, so don’t sweat it so much. Get back to that frame of mind, that positive anchor. So, think about how good you felt when you had sex with this other girl, right? So, this is your anchor. So, next time she reaches out to you, think about that, and then you try to figure out how to invite her out on a date. So, suggest to do something. You met her at a club, for example, or I don’t know, a party whatever, and maybe she likes that, maybe she wants to go out with you again.
I love your positivity, and I think that’s actually also the answer to your question. What should you do? You should do the same thing that you’ve been doing with the other girl. Now, it sounds to me that this girl that you’re dating now, or that, well, you’re not dating, right? You met her at a bar or whatever, and then she added you on IG. But the bottom line is you really like her, right? I have a feeling that you think this woman is much more classy than the other woman. So, the other one was relatively easy to get, so maybe you actually didn’t put her on a pedestal. This one, now, it seems to me that you’re kind of a little bit putting here on a pedestal. You said that well, the positive affirmations helped you to meet better women basically, so she is one of them now.
What you have to do is you have to stay in that positive frame of mind and not tell yourself, “she’s out of my league.” She basically added you on IG because she wanted to talk to you. So, whatever happened that night, even though you didn’t talk that much, you got along well and she clearly liked you, and somehow she must have found out who you are, right? So, common friends or something like that at that party, so she’s really into you. Essentially, like you said, you don’t have to make another mistake.
So, if we look at your last situation with the first time that you got laid, what happened? Well, she made it easy for you, of course. She invited you to her place, and then you had sex, right? So, that’s ultimately what you have to get to. Now, she’s not gonna invite you to her place like you just said. It’s not gonna happen. All you have to do is essentially set up another date. So, most likely, you have to warm her up. You’re gonna have to have a normal date, so invite her out on a date. You’re probably gonna wait for her to message you after something like an IG story, and then eventually, you’re gonna invite her out on a date and eventually bring her to your place. And then again, you have to seduce her. So, this time, you’re gonna have to make a move. You can’t just hope that this is gonna happen again. You have to take some action. Stay positive. You just really have to repeat what you did with this other girl but essentially be a little bit more proactive.
So, just keep up your positive affirmations, and eventually, you’re going to seduce her. I think the key is really just to keep up what you’ve been doing. Focus on yourself, on your purpose, your passions. Then whenever she reaches out to you, you invite her out on dates, you have some fun, and then eventually, you seduce her. And then you just repeat that process until the time that she actually wants to be your girlfriend, and that is how you essentially manifest a girlfriend. And I think you’re almost there already, so don’t sweat it so much. Get back to that frame of mind, that positive anchor. So, think about how good you felt when you had sex with this other girl, right? So, this is your anchor. So, next time she reaches out to you, think about that, and then you try to figure out how to invite her out on a date. So, suggest to do something. You met her at a club, for example, or I don’t know, a party whatever, and maybe she likes that, maybe she wants to go out with you again.
Sometimes that ,works sometimes it doesn’t. Maybe you want to do something more classy because you said that she is classy. So invite her out on dinner date and if she says yes to that then you already know “okay she understands that this is a real date” and she already wanted you anyways because she wouldn’t have added you on IG if she didn’t like you. So she’s most likely going to say yes to something like this. She’s going to get the hint. She’s going to know what is your agenda and then maybe after that dinner date for example, you try to take it to your place. And then you try to seduce her.
So that is my advice for you. I think you’re doing a great job especially with the positive affirmations. As I said, I’m gonna do my own positive affirmations now right after this and that was my advice for you. Let me know in the comments what you think. Give me a thumbs up, subscribe to the channel, and also please always stay positive and never forget to unleash the king within.
