Here’s a messed-up dating fact that will drive you insane when you’re still an inexperienced guy: Women will often start feeling attracted to you or gain more attraction for you when you reject them or platonic relationships with them. It seems counterintuitive but it makes perfect sense that women get turned on when you reject them.
We men rarely get approached by women. It’s a man’s job to hit on women. This is why women have a lot of choice what type of man they date and making this choice is effortless. However, for us men, that choice is difficult and a conscious effort. If we want to date an incredible woman, we have to put in a lot more work, and choosing the right woman is only the first step. This is why most men have a scarcity mindset. Instead of having the same abundance mindset of women, a lot of men think that their choices are limited.
But the truth is that your choices are not limited as long as you take risks and approach more women. When you reject a woman, you’re messing with her brain. Rejection always creates a desire to receive what we’ve been denied.
And for a woman, this rejection is even more effective than for us men. This is why you should never underestimate the power of saying no to a woman who isn’t giving you the love you desire. Most of the time, this creates a pattern interrupt that is going to make her pay more attention to you — not less!
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