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In today’s video, we’re going to talk about boundaries in relationship. When a woman is just too aggressive, not happy with the way that you’re doing certain things in the relationship. Maybe she’s not approving of the kind of friends that you’re having, or your hobbies, the way they’re living your life, and sometimes they just take it too far. And some women are even abusive about this kind of stuff. And so I have a situation from a guy, quite frankly, if I were him, I would probably just dump this woman. But hey, he just wants to figure out “how do I resolve the situation?“… So let’s see what is my advice.
Thinking With Your Dick: My Girlfriend Is No Longer Affectionate — Why Is She Aggressive With Me?
Hello coach, I need to get your advice on my girlfriend who has gone from being a very sweet girl in the beginning, to becoming more and more erratic and aggressive. I don’t know what happened with her. She used to be normal. When we started dating, she seemed like a calm woman. She definitely was a bit crazy, especially with the sex and her strong emotions, but I never expected her to be so aggressive.
Well, you were basically thinking with your dick. That’s what happened. And I mean, most people don’t show their true colors in the beginning. Most people dont show their true colors Most of the time, you can’t see if someone is abusive, or if someone has certain issues. So for example, you see these women sometimes who date really shitty, abusive guys, and you’re like “How the fuck did you ever date this guy?! How can you not have higher standards?? How did you not figure out that this guy is a wife beater? Or that he’s really aggressive? Or that he has anger issues?!” And you’re just like “The fuck, bitch…!” How could you just not see this shit?! I can see this after just looking at this guy. I can already figure out this guy seems kind of shady! And yeah, people are just blind to these kinds of red flags.
And I’m sure you probably have seen some of them in the beginning, but you were thinking too much with your dick. You said yourself… You were thinking that the sex was great, and you acknowledged that she was kind of crazy. So that should have been probably a red flag already, but you ignored it. So anyways, you never see the 100% true colors in the beginning. And the fact that you’re now seeing the true colors, that she gets aggressive, you know, the sooner that you see this, the sooner you should just run. Because if you see really negative stuff of a woman really early on in the relationship, man, it’s just a really bad sign. It’s normal to have conflict after one and a half years, or a year, and then of course, over the years, you keep on having conflict, but if you just see this kind of stuff really early on, that’s not a good sign.
Overly Possessive Girlfriend: What To Do If Your Girlfriend Doesn’t Like Your Friends
Ever since we started moving in together, my girlfriend has become more and more possessive, and there is a bit of an abusive undertone in the way she speaks to me. She has started being very critical of my best friends, which I don’t understand. She doesn’t like them at all and complains a lot if I hang out with them. She wants me all for herself. And the reason why I’m messaging you is that last weekend I was going out with my two best friends.
So before I continue here… Look, it might be normal that a woman is not happy with your friends if they are really a piss poor influence on you. They’re abusive. They’re dicks. They are drug addicts. They don’t treat their own girlfriends nice. They are irresponsible. They get drunk all the time. Stuff like that. Obvious character flaws. Yeah, then it’s normal that your girlfriend won’t like your friends, sure. But if your friends are normal dudes… And I looked at your message and I think your friends are probably normal dudes, at least you’re not mentioning anything why they are horrible, awful people. Whatever she doesn’t like about them. If she just doesn’t like them because we’re gonna see here… They are gamers, for example, nerdy kind of guys, or stuff like that, then you should just dump your girlfriend. Because if she can’t approve of your friends who are normal, decent people, then why should you approve of her, quite frankly? So that’s just something to mention here.
She knew that I was going and it was clear that I would not be back until sometime on Sunday. We went to a gaming convention together. It’s been a really long time since the boys and I bonded like that, and also with life and dating in general, gaming conventions aren’t really on top of the food chain LOL. Plus, there was COVID as well, so you know, there were no conventions happening.
If I were you… I’m not a big gamer anymore, but if I would just be so excited about going to a gaming convention, I would be smiling all the time. I would probably tell it to my girlfriend all the time. I would be super excited just like “Yes!!! Finally!!!!“… And she would probably think it is cute. She would be really happy for me. That’s the kind of woman that you want to be with. If you are with a woman who can’t be like that, who is actually upset at you for going to a gaming convention, and she’s upset because of something that’s happening there, then she’s just not the right woman for you. Your partner… You should be excited for your woman if she does something that excites her. And she should be excited for you when you get to do something that you’re really excited about. And so clearly, you haven’t been to a gaming convention for I’m assuming, at least two years, I guess, because there were no conventions during COVID, right? So it has been two or three years, I’m assuming. So fuck yes!!! Right?! You’re so excited but this is causing a problem. We’re gonna see in a moment that this is causing huge problems. That’s a red flag. That’s not a good woman to be with.
Girlfriend Is Abusive: When Your Girlfriend Is Disrespectful And Unappreciative Towards You
The weekend was fun, but we got home a little bit later than expected. We still stopped by at a nearby town for some damn delicious rib-eye steak. I didn’t think it would be a big problem. I messaged her ‘Hey babe, we are still going to stop by at STK to get some food. I will probably be home at least an hour later.’… I didn’t think much about it but when I came home roughly three hours later than I thought we would, she was very angry. She got visibly aggressive out of nowhere. I had no idea what the hell was going on. I asked her what was up with her. I even messaged her multiple times to let her know where we were in our schedule for coming back.
Yeah, that is a red flag, because you’re doing the right thing. You’re telling her “Hey babe, we decided to get some food on the way home and we’re gonna take some time. We’re gonna need a little bit of extra time.” … Whatever… It’s just like one hour or two hours extra, plus you’re telling her about it. It’s not like you’re just not messaging her and saying nothing, and then you come home half a day later and she’s like “Where the fuck have you been? You didn’t even tell me that you’re gonna be late.“… No, you’re actually telling her. You’re keeping her informed. That’s the right thing to do. And she causes drama? That is a red flag again. Ah! So many red flags. You know where this is going to end at the end of the video with my advice.
But she was so angry that I didn’t keep my word, which makes no sense. As I said, I told her our ETA. And she even hit me on the shoulder a few times. It didn’t really hurt a lot. I was just mostly surprised why she would be so angry. But it definitely was kind of something that happened out of nowhere.
Yeah, at that point, I would just be calling her out and saying this is way out of line. That’s abusive. If you would do something like this… I guess you’ve seen it with the Johnny Depp / Amber Heard trial how easy it is for men to get fucked over by women, sometimes even without fault, or not that much fault. That’s not saying that Johnny Depp doesn’t also have flaws, but you get what I’m saying. So if you were the one, the perpetrator here, and you would hit her in some way, she would probably dump you, and she might even call the police or something like that. So I would say this is way out of line. Your behavior is not okay. In that moment I would have said “What the hell? This is not okay. If you do this ever again, we are done!“…
Don’t Let Her Pull You Down: If She’s Abusive Show Her Your Boundaries — Only Give Her One Chance
I’m not sure how I feel about us right now because we have only been dating for six months and she’s kind of a roller coaster. She’s a good woman, but she definitely has problems with my friends, and I just don’t understand what her problem is. I want to talk with her about this but I don’t know how to approach it. I’m thinking this needs a solution or it will just get worse and worse. How would you talk to your girlfriend to let her know that you don’t like the way she’s treating you and your close friends? I want to make this work with her but the way it’s going, I don’t think that things are improving. If at all, it looks like it’s getting worse and she’s becoming less tolerant of me and the boys. I haven’t even seen my two best friends for the longest time. I appreciate your thoughts on the situation. Thanks!
So before I talk about “How would you resolve the situation?” I would just say that she seems very controlling. You’ve only been together for six months and she has this really shitty behavior… First of all, she doesn’t like your friends, right? So she has huge issues with your friends. Controlling behavior. I guess she wants you to herself, and then the way that she tries to control, it is even worse. If a woman has some control issues and wants her to herself, that’s bad enough, but if she only does this verbally, at least she still has some level of healthy behavior. She’s just telling you with verbal, probably abuse, verbal words. “I don’t like this. I don’t want you to spend time with these guys.” That’s it. But she’s controlling you with violence. That is just unacceptable. So what I would do in your situation…
I would sit her down and I would tell her “Babe look, I need you to, first of all, appreciate my friends, or at the very least, be okay with me spending time with them. I don’t know why you don’t like them, but they are a part of my life. And you need to accept this. And if you can’t, then we can’t be a couple. Second, the way that you treated me, the way how you became very aggressive, even though I didn’t really do much, and especially how you hurt me, how you punched me, or how you…” I guess she didn’t punch you… She probably just did it like this. It probably wasn’t a proper punch, but it doesn’t matter. It’s violent. “So the way how you slapped me, that was not okay. If you do this ever again, then we can’t be a couple because I don’t want to be with a woman who is abusive. I want you to tell me how you feel calmly, collected, without aggression. And I’m going to listen to you, and then we can disagree maybe, and maybe we will find a solution. Or maybe not. That’s how I want to have a relationship with you. If you can’t do that, then we can’t be a couple.” That’s how you would resolve this.
I would tell her very clearly how you feel about this. No bullshit. No. With a woman like this, you gotta be really strong. You gotta say it just how it is and tell her this is not okay. If you do this one more time I’m fucking out of here. You don’t have to say “I’m fucking out of here” but very clearly, very strongly, say what you accept in the relationship and what you don’t. And if a woman can’t treat you right, just fucking walk away because there are so many women who will treat you right. Now, the thing is, you’ve been only together for six months. I would just not entertain a woman like this, in general. First of all, even if she wouldn’t be aggressive and abusive like that… Nah! Let’s say she’s only aggressive after six months. That’s still a huge red flag. You can already tell after six months that something is really, really off now.
But the thing is, with the violence included, even though that probably didn’t hurt you much, it was just surprising to you, fuck no, man! No. Hell-freaking no. No woman would accept this from a guy. Well, a woman without standards might accept it. But you should not accept this. Have standards for women that you’re dating. I would just break it off most likely with her, because she’s gonna make your life really miserable. Do you wanna live a life where you can’t hang out with your friends or are afraid that if you hang out with your friends, something goes wrong? Like you come home an hour later and she’s gonna be upset? Nah! That’s not a good woman! That’s a really shitty woman to be with, honestly. I think you should just dump her. That is my advice for you. If you want to try to resolve it, sure, try to resolve it, but it’s at your own risk. And I don’t think it’s going to improve, most likely, but hey, it’s all your choice. So that’s my advice for you. Let me know in the comments what you think. Give me a thumbs up, subscribe to the channel, and never forget to unleash the king within.
