Here’s something you should never ask a woman who you’re dating: “Hey, what is this between us? Are we in a relationship? Hey, I want to be in a relationship with you…” So why shouldn’t you say this to a woman, even if it feels as if you’re becoming a couple? It’s because a woman who trusts discovers her lust. Her number one criteria for being in a relationship with you is whether she trusts you. When you try to pin her down and put a label on your relationship before she wants to, it is your scarcity mindset kicking in. In her mind, this translates to “He urgently wants to be in a relationship with me and is anxious about the uncertainty of whether or not I am dedicated to him.“
Women almost never have a scarcity mindset, which is why they are so turned off when they see it in a man. Women cannot understand that men have fewer options with women than the other way around. This is why she feels pressured and loses trust in your confidence when you appear needy without the knowledge that you’re both in a relationship.
She wants to know that you aren’t afraid of losing her especially so early on in the relationship when you essentially haven’t even established yet that you are in one. You should wait for her to bring up the topic of being exclusive and being in a committed relationship. Show her that you aren’t afraid and that your world isn’t going to fall apart if things don’t work out between the two of you.
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